Our little boy is now 12 days old, mashaAllah. I am in awe of how beautiful he is, mashaAllah!!! It's been a huge 12 days. The birth was not what I wanted it to be, maybe one day I'll post about it to debrief in a way but for now I am so happy that he is here.
One thing I wanted to post about is breastfeeding. We had a horrible time of it in the beginning and it's still hard. Feel free to contact me to talk about any problems you are having and I will let you know exactly what we went through, am just a bit hesitant to share exactly what went wrong in such a public place! But anyway. We are working through it and have seen a great lactation consultant recently which REALLY helped both of us. We're getting better each feed!
So... mums and mums to be. Breastfeeding is the best start for your baby, if you are able to do it. Some people can't and that's that, in which case formula is only second best and that's not a bad thing. Don't feel guilty if you cannot breastfeed. But if you're having problems, DON'T BE QUIET and DON'T STAND FOR PEOPLE NOT LISTENING TO YOU. Some midwives or consultants think everything they know is all good and holy. It is NOT. Depend on Allah SWT and make dua to improve your situation. If it is His will for you to breastfeed, you WILL inshaAllah. Never be afraid to stand up for you and your baby. You'll be feeding for anywhere up to 2 years inshaAllah - so don't just accept it when things aren't working.
Being a parent is a constant challenge. I'm tired, sore, sometimes depressed and sometimes elated. But my little boy is here and it is now my responsibility to be a role model for him in his religion inshaAllah.
Allah huma salee ala Mohammad, wa alee Mohammad!